Why Choose Compassionate Leadership Coaching?
I believe that self-compassion and shame resilience are as relevant in the workplace as anywhere else in our lives.
We often talk about work/life balance as if the two things are separate. I believe it is more helpful to talk about life balance, and this is as defined by you.
Self-Compassion, as described by researcher K. Neff, can be understood to comprise of three interconnected parts:
- Self-kindness is to be caring towards the self, offering support and unconditional acceptance instead of being self-critical.
- A sense of common humanity, an understanding that all humans struggle with their imperfections, failures and mistakes.
- Mindfulness is necessary for developing an awareness of suffering, allowing the present experience without either ignoring or exaggerating the pain
And if you think about your personal experiences day to day, do you responding as above?
Although there are biological reasons we tend to pay more attention to our mistakes and be critical, some of this often default response is also a learnt behaviour, a habit, one of which when explored mostly closes down creativity, curiosity, growth and resilience.
Contrary to what most people think, having high levels of self-compassion increases our ability to take personal responsibility for our actions, learn from our mistakes and move on with learning …. becoming more resilient.
What Is The Ideal?
In an ideal world you would as a matter of good practice spend time exploring the following:
- Your leadership skills, strengths and philosophy.
- What your purpose is as a leader.
- What you value most in your team, what really matters to you.
- Who you are as a member of a team.
- Why you do what you do, what matters most to you.
- What your personal “why” is.
- What are your businesses “Why”?
- Where are you most fulfilled, and how do you know?
- How authentic am I at work?
- If finding being authentic challenging, why?
- What triggers a stress response?
- Being curious about resourceful and compassionate ways to respond to stress.
- How do I respond to challenges, setbacks, failing and making mistakes?
The above is not a definitive list and of course, it is not an ideal world. In my experience, many of the above conversations, rarely happen.
We all get so busy being busy and doing the job, all the above can be filed under, would be nice to do one day when have I have time. And that time may never come or does, but only when we run into difficulties and challenges.
What Are the Benefits?
What are the benefits of having clarity on the above, research suggests that when we do, we experience:
- Improved overall life satisfaction.
- Increased feelings of well-being and happiness.
- More personal and professional success as defined by you, not others.
- Improved levels of emotional intelligence.
- Become more resilient and respond more compassionately, productively and resourcefully to yourself and others when faced with challenges, mistakes or failures.
- Improved levels of stress management and experience less stress, becoming calmer and more present.
- Improved relationships with others as well as yourself.
How Does Resilience Fit In?
Self-compassion strongly correlates with resilience.
If we understand resilience as a way we work through our challenges by using personal resources, strengths and other positive capacities such as hope, optimism, and self-efficacy… we can access them with more ease when we are kind as opposed to being self-critical.
Self-criticism is more likely to active shame and your stress response, which in turn closes down your pathway to creative, resourceful and new ways of thinking.
Self-kindness does the opposite.
Knowing we aren’t the only ones making mistakes and knowing that there is no other route to learning, being creative, doing new things, without the possibility that you may make a mistake or fail along the way.
It is inevitable, and when we learn to welcome our mistakes, responding with kindness…. you find yourself in a win-win situation.
How Do We Work Together
It will always be bespoke. I will spend time with you and elicit specifically what you and your company need and want. Together we create a project plan that works for you.
I blend together Positive Psychology, Neuro-Linguistic-Programming, business and management psychology and will deliver the project through training and coaching.
My aim is for you and your business to continue to flourish and thrive, in ways that increase the life satisfaction and overall health and well-being of all.
I look forward to hearing from you when the time is right,
I went to see Helen a few years ago when I was really stuck. I had been a stay at home mum with twins for years and had lost confidence in myself to make the right decision about what to do next. Helen helped me regain focus and talked through all of the ideas I had rattling around in my head that I couldn't grab on to and form into action. I ended up re-training to become a personal trainer, as exercise has always been a passion of mine. After my course, I had a wobble about getting started, so I had another session for a kick up the bum.Now I run my own PT business and am building it up at a comfortable pace. I'm so glad she helped me out of my rut and that I'm not miserable sitting in an office job that I hate! If you need someone to help quiet those annoying inner voices and help give you perspective on how things CAN be better in your life, I highly can highly recommend a few sessions with Helen!